I have to admit, all of this reading and writing about fathers today is getting me a tad worked up and while I may have some “daddy issues” (ugh, really just a tired old story I’d rather not tell anymore) there is one father who, okay well, let’s just say …
He rocks my world.
That man is the father of my children and, incidentally, the love of my life.
So, I thought dating and living with someone was a challenge. Try cooperatively guiding two little humans through their new life … without messing them up too badly, that is … and still stumbling along the middle way through yours. Holy Handfuls.
He (my partner in crime) keeps me on my toes, that’s for darn sure. He gets me to question what it means to be a parent … and a human being for that matter. For example, when he utters some less-than-desirable superlatives to my babies, I am immediately confronted with my “issues.” You know, that little voice in my head, with all of it’s conditions and labels, says (very self-righteously I might add), “Oh, now that is just not right” and I counter with, “Well, why the heck not?” In addition to the expletives, this dad does share plenty of insight and tenderness. He does not skimp on the “I love you’s” and in no way would fall into the category of emotionally unavailable. Most impressive, he admits when he is wrong.
Honestly, I couldn’t ask for a better companion and father for my children and I am grateful every day to have him in my life.
Now, on the lighter side …
I just love his careless-free way of keeping it real and always saying what comes to mind. No hiding behind an authoritarian-style, “Because I Said So.” Nope, not my guy. It’s more like “because you’re annoying the f*ck out of me.”
Think: ShitMyDadSays … but with preschoolers.
So, for some giggles, here is a Mini Highlights Reel:
Offspring: I’m hungy.
Dad: Yeah, and you’re ugly too! (Then, noticing the horrified expression on the poor child’s face) Oh, come on. If I really thought you were ugly, do you think I’d tell you?
Offspring: Daddy, do you believe in God?
Dad: I don’t need God … I have plenty of people praying for me. I’m good.
By the way, I share his moments via Twitter @hetalksalot
And now for some serious laughs (or gasps of disapproval), below is video of Louis C.K. sharing his thoughts about being a dad. By the way, questionable language and offensive content is pretty much guaranteed. Consider yourself “disclaimer-ed.”
Thanks to my wonderful husband, Adam, for inspiring this post and to you all for reading.
Happy Father’s Day!